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The Current Dating Trends in India

Have you been out of the dating scene for some time? Has it been long enough for you not to know what’s cooking? We have got you covered. I don’t know about you, but there have been too many changes in the dating scene. A lot has changed in just two years. That is a long time considering how short people’s attention span has become. People have moved from Vicky Kaushal to Siddhant Chaturvedi in just a couple of months. It is difficult to keep up. But I have tried my best to sum up everything I could. India is changing every second. And why not? We are such a huge country that there is always something new to witness. But I did some work for you and found out what’s trending. It took me more than a few videos and hours of Instagram surfing, but I ultimately found great things. Interesting things that you will definitely love. Safe to say that India mein fog ke alawa bahot kuch chal raha hain. Read on to know what the current dating trends in India are.

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1. Instant photos of every moment

This has been going around for some time now. If your Instagram is flooding with instant photos of couples, you are not the only one. Instant photos are in fashion. We are a generation that demands haste. Our technology speaks for us. Look at our phones. We need faster phones with lightning fast cameras. And we are the same generation that gets extremely nostalgic at the sight of old stuff. So naturally, when we got our hands on instant cameras, we went gaga over them. Instant cameras give us instant memories in print. They were bound to be popular. In fact, companies who manufacture these cameras have experienced a hike in sales. Their revenues have gone up by 15.6%. They are making big money now because we practically revived them. Everyone wins!

2. Moving on in a jiffy

It is called Grande-ing. Don’t laugh yet because it is a funny truth. Head to YouTube or Apple Music right now if you still have not somehow heard ‘Thank u, next.’ It created ripples in the music industry. And it found its way in regular people’s lives, too. People are quoting the lyrics from the song every day. It is all over social media. The song gave strength to people to move on from their breakups. And that is how it has become the current dating trend in India.

We have so many options these days that we don’t value relationships like before. You can find a new partner in one swipe. There is no need to go out and know people anymore. Everything is literally at your fingertips. And that has made us feel less afraid of losing people. We are moving on quicker than ever. No wonder Fastrack is earning so much!

3. Movies are okay; bowling is better

I think we can all agree that the number of bowling alleys in our cities has increased. So many sports bars are coming up with their own bowling spaces. This is a major sign of westernisation. After all, bowling is a game of the west. And we can’t seem to have enough of it.

Several couples prefer having their dates at an arcade game centre or bowling alleys over movie theatres. People are becoming increasingly fond of adventure. I also feel this has more to do with the changing face of society. Earlier, couples felt the need to hide in the dark movie halls. But now, we are more liberal, and things are more open. So, individuals don’t mind hanging out in plain sight.

4. Niceness is another one of the current dating trends in India

Bye-bye playing hard to get, hello amiability! No one wants to be around a person who is too inaccessible. As mentioned earlier, finding a partner is too easy these days. So why spend time courting someone who gives you a hard time? And that is why people are becoming nicer. Politeness is replacing insolence. If you put the whole wave of aggressive feminism aside, you will see that the real women are acknowledging men’s feelings. Only if they are honest. They respect them even if they refuse. Similarly, men feel the need to become gentler. Remember the time when men held the key to everything? Not anymore. Men have become nicer than before. More chivalrous. They are not insecure about their masculinity nor do they feel emasculated if a woman takes the front seat in life. And that’s a beautiful thing.

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5. Premarital sex isn’t taboo

Just last week a film about live-in was released. And being a woman, my mom is more in favour of live-in relationships than an arranged marriage. This only shows that our thinking pattern is changing. Having sex before marriage is okay. And unmarried couples don’t mind booking hotel rooms to do it. Women don’t need to cover their faces while booking the room and men needn’t strike a deal with the hotel manager anymore. It is chill!

If you have been away from the dating scene for some time, this is good news for you. Sex isn’t taboo anymore. So if you are thinking of getting back into the game, you won’t have to feel guilty about something that is natural.

6. Benching is becoming a thing

Remember the meme with the boy eyeing at another girl while holding his girlfriend’s hand? That was inspired by the current dating trend. Not just in India, but everywhere else. Gone are the days when people would give all their attention to one person. We get bored easily. We keep looking for something more interesting and adventurous than what we have.

Benching is when you like someone, but you are not sure about them, so you bench them. You don’t tell them no or let them go. But you don’t tell them yes either. Basically, you don’t make your relationship a concrete one. Even if you plan to keep it a secret.

7. Stalking exes/orbiting is a norm

You must definitely know how the moon orbits around the earth if you paid attention in geography class. That is where the term comes from. Orbiting is a new trend in the dating scene in India. All thanks to social media. Who knew that calling each other Sherlock for digging out dirt was going to become a fad? But orbiting does not just mean you are stalking your ex. It also means that you stay in their lives like a ghost. You don’t unfollow or unfriend them. But you don’t leave a like or comment on their pictures either. You just keep yourself up-to-date with their life without you.

Orbiting has become a norm now. People might do it to out of curiosity or jealousy. And sometimes, it is just because they want to, without having a real intention. But the point is that people don’t believe in cutting the ties. And I, for one, am guilty of this. I lurk around in my exes’ social media, so I have all the gossip first hand. No, it is not about being a loner. It is just about being aware. Don’t judge me. Stahppp!!

8. Proposing means getting married now

We are all guilty of doing this. I don’t know whether we should laugh at our dumbness or facepalm at our naivety. Perhaps a long sigh would do for now. We actually referred to ‘asking someone to date’ as proposing. Like what in the world?! And no one corrected anyone. People continued to say the wrong thing while everyone nodded normally. Fortunately, we are over that phase. Well, almost over. Some people still call it that. But we should be grateful to the overexposure of the internet. We have finally learnt the difference. Now, people don’t confuse the two. We know that ‘proposing’ is restricted to a marriage proposal while ‘asking out’ is for dating only.

9. Dating for attention

Yup, people do this. The internet can be deceiving. Not everyone is as happy as they portray. People are dating for attention now. You could be dating someone famous or popular. You could even be dating someone who is liked by someone you don’t like, simply to make them jealous. But you don’t date because you want to. You date because you want to show someone or the world that you are dating this particular person. AND you are happy. That is the crucial part.

10. Friends-with-Benefits are increasing

Not sure if it is the movies that are being made or people are actually comfortable with the concept, but having friends-with-benefits has become a thing these days. You could have one or multiple friends from whom you are getting the benefit. The truth is, we like having options. It gives us control over our freedom. Also, I think people like not having to answer to anybody while still having the perks of a relationship. Although some people don’t approve of this arrangement, I strongly believe, who are we to judge? To each, his own. Especially in a world like ours where we are becoming increasingly sensitive towards the other person’s feelings.

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11. Dating by choice

Speaking of being sensitive, this is the best thing that has happened in recent times. It is like a silver lining to a dark cloud. After all the bad and negative trends, there is something that we can finally cherish.

DATING BY CHOICE! It means dating who you want, when you want, and if you want.

We know what dating ‘who you want means.’ And honestly, more power to the rainbow troop. But did you know that there are people who wish to take their sweet time with dating? In fact, there are people who don’t want to date at all because they are asexual. We are yet to acknowledge them completely. But we are slowly moving toward it.

We are choosing to date on our own terms. We are not willing to let anybody take that from us. And that is the best dating trend in India. We should all be proud of it!

What are some other dating trends in India right now? Write down your responses in the comment section below for your fellow readers!

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You Are Likely to Meet Your Soulmate At One of These Places

Soulmates exist! And here is where you can meet them.

If you think you have lost your faith in love and people, you might want to think again. Maybe this is the best situation. Some people meet their soulmates when they least expect it. You might have given up, but the universe has not. You are fortunate!

When I decided to write this article, I thought of all the happy relationships that I have come across. And I realised that I know at least one person who has met their soulmate in these places. So I thought why not incorporate real stories in this blog, so you know that it is possible? And that is what you are about to read. Let this blog be a beacon of hope that someday you will meet the old half of you.

Leggo!!

1. A Serene Book Cafe

My friend once asked me to set him up with one of my girl-friends because he wanted to be with someone intelligent. But I don’t do that. Nah! I don’t like to be involved in this kind of things. So I advised him to go to an unpopular book cafe in our city to meet someone. An unpopular one because that is where true nerds flock. Anybody can pretend to be a bibliophile while reading Durjoy Dutta at Starbucks. But only those that care about reading go to a place where they won’t be on display.

And it happened just as I had expected. He was going through the ‘Fiction’ section of the book cafe when he came across a girl looking confused. My friend seized the moment and asked her about it. It turned out that she was holding Lord of the Rings in her hand, which is his favourite book series. As fate would have it, he impressed her with his knowledge on the subject and helped her choose the right book.

What’s more? One thing led to another, and they are now in a decent relationship. I would not say that it is a perfect relationship. But they have been quite happy with each other for two years.

Perhaps your soulmate is waiting for you at your nearest book cafe, too. Don’t make them wait any further.

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2. One of These Amazing Silent Discos

One of my cousins, Ananya, met Shreyansh while they were studying in London in different colleges. Their fates had brought them to the same club and single! Shreyansh’s friend approached Ananya for him because he is a textbook introvert. And something special happened that night. They didn’t dance even though that was what they went to do there. Instead, they rented a booth inside the club and connected over their favourite music. And they ended up spending the night connecting at some random park.

I can’t say they are still together because not all relationships have to have a ‘happily ever after.’ But they did have a long relationship of 6 years. Shreyansh had to come back to India while Ananya had planned to settle there, so they decided to end it mutually. All that remains are pleasant memories.

Let me clear a misconception that people have about soulmates. Many people think soulmates are meant to last forever. But it does not always have to be that way. You can meet your soulmate and part ways from them after spending as few as six months with them. And you can still love them for life because you vibe on a different level.

3. A Groovy Salsa Party

I seldom think about this incident that happened to me a few years back at a salsa party. I was a young bird among a flock of gorgeous cranes. This was a celebrity party, which was flooding with the famous Bollywood actors that I had known all my life. So naturally, no one asked me to dance because a) I can’t dance well and b) I did not have the same model looks as the other girls in the party.

So I was sitting at the bar minding my own business, watching people dance and have fun when a man with salt n pepper hair approached me. He asked me to accompany him for a dance. I wasn’t sure, so I politely refused, making my inability to dance an excuse. But he was adamant and quite persuasive. So I agreed for one dance. And I am so glad that I did because I had the best time. As the song ended, I began to leave when he caught my hand and asked me for another dance. I agreed. We laughed, shared, and clicked several times throughout the dance.

Four songs later, I decided that this was it for me. And so I left. He accompanied me to the parking lot and asked me for my BBpin (yeh un dino ki baat hain). But I refused and decided to keep things mysterious.

The connection that we shared during those four dances could only be described as something that would happen between soulmates. I wonder what could have been had I decided to keep in touch. Would my life be different? Perhaps. All I know is, that salsa night was so special for me that I wouldn’t change it for the world.

4. During Your Uber Pool Ride

This one did not happen with one of the people I know. It actually happened with two strangers that I was sharing my Uber ride with. I was travelling with a young boy and girl who were strangers. The girl was in the passenger seat while the boy was seated behind the driver’s seat. His position gave him a clear view of the girl who was playing some game on her phone that was apparently the food for his soul. The boy struck a conversation with the girl, and they both seemed to have taken an instant liking to each other. It was a long ride so they must have spoken for an hour and a half before finally exchanging their numbers enthusiastically.

I might not know much about them, but I knew the spark because I have seen it before. They got down at the same stop because fatefully, they were neighbours. So even the universe was at work then.

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5. While Playing PUBG

Speaking of games, my boyfriend has a huge circle of friends. They are childhood buddies who are all hardcore PUBG players. And this is a rather strange PUBG incident that strengthened my faith in love and soulmates even more. One of the people from my boyfriend’s PUBG group added a new girl to the group who belonged to another city. Ronak (my boyfriend’s friend) who has been single ever since I have known him, started to talk to her during the game. To our surprise, the girl actually replied to him, and it all seemed extremely genuine to us all.

A week later as I was scrolling through my Instagram feed, I saw Ronak had uploaded a picture with a girl. I showed it to my boyfriend, and he confirmed that it was the same girl from the game. Ronak had travelled all the way to another city to meet this girl. And as you might have guessed, they started dating. It happened out of nowhere and in a different city. It was astounding, but it affirmed my faith in soulmates. Perhaps this story will affirm yours, too.

6. A Reality Show Audition

My aunt has one of the loveliest tales of her encounter with her soulmate. She had gone for an audition for a reality show. It was a regional singing competition. And if you don’t already know, the behind-the-stage of reality shows is tiring. You have to wait for hours to get to the first level of the audition, which is nowhere near the actual thing that you see on TV. And then you have at least three such rounds. So you have to be prepared to spend the entire day on the field.

While sitting in the waiting area, she caught a glimpse of a guy who was practising his song. She decided to talk to him because she was incredibly bored. The boy was warm. They clicked and started talking about their shared love for music. After singing their favourite songs together and talking all day, my aunt says they fell for each other. Safe to say that they didn’t get selected for the show, but they did become the chosen one for each other. And their relationship was so successful that I call that guy ‘uncle’ now.

7. On Your Building’s Terrace

I might have written this story before in one of my previous blogs, but I will write it yet again because it is so dreamy. Sonia, my roommate, was about to get married when I first met her. It was a love marriage. When I asked her, she told me that she had been with her man for 11 years. They were 14 years old when they had started, and they were 25 when they decided to make things official.

Sonia and Ashish became neighbours when Sonia moved to the neighbourhood. They would come on their respective terraces to see each other. That is how they would talk. Three years later, they informed their parents about their relationship, and everyone accepted their relationship almost instantly. And the rest is history. And guess where this happened? Delhi, which is famous for its rooftop romance.

Sixteen years later, they are married with a daughter. And they have settled down in Australia. Two people who were brought together by chance now live happily.

8. A Superfun Karaoke Night

We don’t have as many karaoke bars in India as we should, but soulmates find a way to get to each other. This incident happened with my brother when he was in college. His friends had dragged him to a karaoke bar and signed him up for singing. He managed to give an awkward performance and returned to his table. He didn’t expect any praises for what he had done. But someone was secretly impressed with his talent.

A minute later, a woman approached him and complimented him on his voice. She even offered him a drink. That is when you know it is fate. They exchanged numbers and got to talking. Things went forward. Now they have a dog together! It does not always end with a baby.

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9. In a Judgemental Interview

No no. I am not talking about the interview per se. You can find your soulmate while waiting for the interview. This did not happen to anyone I know, but it did happen to my friend’s parents. Women did not actively seek employment back when her parents had got married. And before feminism became a fad instead of an ideology, my friend’s father was already a huge feminist. So when he saw his wife-to-be sitting there in the waiting room, he was immediately impressed. And it wasn’t a surprise when they began to see each other after they got the job.

My friend’s parents still swear by their relationship. Her mother is glad that her father made the first move. And they feel incredibly fortunate to have found each other right before they started their adult lives.

10. At a Drunken Bar

We can all agree that bars are a great place to meet your soulmate. And many love stories start here. So I wasn’t surprised when my friend met his girlfriend at a bar. He was so excited when he told me about it. And it still feels like it is brand new even after five years. Not sure if it is the alcohol that keeps the relationship ‘neat,’ but it is all wonderful.

11. During a Musical Music Festival

Many souls find each other during music fests. You have a better chance of finding your soulmate when you are at music festivals because you get to meet like-minded people. Also, people connect over music more than anything else.

My friends are crazy about music fests, so they make it a point to attend as many as possible. Two of my girl-friends met their current boyfriends at one such fest. They ran into two guys who were friends, too. The four of them had a good time and clicked. I absolutely envy them because they get to go on double dates more than I do.

12. In the Family

I found it extremely creepy when it happened to my friend. But I feel that it deserves to be on the list.

We were 15, and I was helping my best friend, Kriya, clean her house for Diwali. We were going through some old stuff when we came across an old photograph. It was Kriya’s childhood photo, but she wasn’t alone. There were some unfamiliar faces in there, so she began to familiarise me with them. She was running her finger through the faces while telling me about them when she suddenly stopped. It was some guy I had never seen before. He seemed to be our age. I asked Kriya who he was and she became numb. It was Abhishek, her childhood crush. I found it weird because it was her cousin. But she said it was acceptable in their religion. I didn’t question further because I didn’t know much about her religion. And we let it slide.

Two days later, I got a message from Kriya saying Abhishek had come to her house. It was surprising because he lived in a different state and he had never visited her. Another ten days later, Kriya called me, and she sounded really excited. She told me that Abhishek asked her out and she said yes. The relationship was a short-lived one because it was long-distance, but Kriya was happy.

I found out later that Abhishek was Kriya’s maternal uncle’s son and if she were to get married, he would be her family’s first choice. So I guess if their souls are meant to be together, they will find a way.

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13. A Fun Hobby Class

Hobby classes are a great place to meet your soulmate. They are fun and informative. My friend, Jahnavi, met her soulmate at a tango class. It happened on a fateful day.

Jahnavi was always interested in joining a tango dance class, but she failed to find herself a partner as you need to have a partner to attend the class. So she kept rejecting the idea of attending one. But one day, she signed up for the class. Solo! No partner. Jahnavi decided to let destiny find her a partner. And it did.

Who would have thought that there would be another person who would sign up for the same class without a partner? Subsequently, the class suggested that Jahnavi and the boy take the class together. They completed the class and eventually started dating. It has been four years since then, and their relationship is only growing stronger.

How did you meet your soulmate? Write it down in the comment section below for your fellow readers!